To Edify or Not to Edify...What It Means

ed·i·fy 2
/ˈedəˌfī/ 

Verb 

Instruct or improve (someone) morally or intellectually.

Synonyms: educate 

This is an important word in a successful relationship. If you are not feeding you partner emotionally, intellectually, and physically then your relationship will not grow. A marriage cannot improve without some gardening taking place. You have to make sure your partner knows how you feel about them daily. Sometimes just saying I love you IS not enough. Let them know that you are the happiest person on earth because they are in your life. Tell them that you thank God daily for Him allowing the two of you to meet and become one. Tell them that you appreciate everything they do for you and your family. Let them know you noticed the little thing they did. All these things matter. Even if your partner seems like they don't care about it, they do. Edifying your mate is merely fertilizing your marriage garden. Fertilizer is an essential part of gardening. If you don't fertilize your garden, it may grow but not at it's best. If you fertilize the garden with the wrong stuff, it won't grow. The wrong stuff to fertilize your marriage with is complaining, nagging, ignoring, belittling, talking behind their backs. I think you get what I am saying. But when you fertilize with love, understanding, praise, encouragement, listening, your marriage garden has no other choice but to flourish. Take some time and think about your relationship. Have you edified your partner today?

Real Love

Many excuse the fact that love, real love, is work. You cannot just go into a relationship thinking that it is going to be all fairy tales and all that comes with that misconception. LOVE IS WORK! That is the simplest way to put it. If you love someone, truly love someone, you have to be willing to accept the good with the bad. Love is not easy to maintain. Okay let me rephrase that. Relationships are not easy to maintain. Love, I think, you really can’t control. Love just [kind of] happens. If it is real love, it will just sneak up on you most of the time. I mean it won’t happen just because you want it to. Let me explain that statement. You can’t make love happen. If someone is meant to love you, they will. On the other hand, don’t think you have to be with someone just because they love you. Don’t be in a loveless relationship. But that is a whole other story. Love is what you make it. So make it the best you can.