Real Mothers

Okay so I have not made a post in awhile. I will be working on improving that once the semester is over. I wanted to address this topic though so I wouldn’t forget.  I admit that sometimes I waste my time and watch Teen Mom and Pregnant at 16. They are really a shame to me that these girls continue to have children at such young ages. But I don’t understand is them making it harder than they really have it. Now not all of them have true family support but most do. On Friday on Good Morning America, I watched them salute a mother who begin being a mother when she was 18 to her brothers and sisters after their mom passed away. Her mom asked her to keep the family together and I believe that it was a total of nine and then she got married and had six of her own. That would be a total of 15 children that she raised and did without a whole bunch of money or anything out of the ordinary.  I watch as these girls complain about everything from not being able to go out or something petty and I think really? You are getting paid to allow cameras follow you around and yet you still complain about petty crap.  I know motherhood at a young age is hard but you guys are ahead of the game by getting paid the amount of money it takes most of us years to get to and at 16 you are getting paid for not making good choices.  I really would suggest these girls really take time to look at their situations objectively and realized how blessed they truly are.  Motherhood is not an easy job by any means but you laid down knowing what could come of it so stop whining and do what you have to.  I am now stepping down off my soapbox and would like to wish everyone a HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!!!

You Don’t Like My Natural Hair…Oh Well

So you meet someone and everything seems to be going fine. Then all of sudden he tells you that he is not feeling your fro. What to do? Personally chunk the deuce. You cannot allow someone to change you because they don't like one thing about you. So you don't like my natural hair and you instead would like me to go back to poisoning my body on a regular basis? So I guess that means we can't be together if that is the deal breaker. In the natural community, there has been buzz about Method Man saying that he could not date a woman who has natural hair because their hair is not "did". My response to that is he doesn't know what it takes to take care of my fro and keep it healthy. So I will say that his ignorance really doesn't bother me at all. If you can't be with someone because of their hair then maybe you are not ready to make a commitment to someone. I am lucky to have a man who loves my natural hair and sometimes I think he loves it more than I do. He is not a fan of my product junkism but I am working on that. Method Man's remarks didn't hurt my feelings. It just lets me know that he does not know what having natural hair is all about. So that is my position and I am sticking to it.

No Compromise before Marriage

I don't know if this will make sense but I don't think you should compromise before marriage. Your significant other asks you to do something that you don't agree with then maybe this is not the one for you. When you are married to someone compromise is something that is a given so if you willing to compromise on something you just don't agree with then you are not ready for marriage. To me compromise is a gift reserved for your partner for life not just some random dude. Just like sex. If I am not your wife then you don't the benefits of me being your wife. My duties as a wife don't start until I say I do nor do your duties as a husband. I really don't understand how a person can expect so much before the vows have been. Vows are much stronger than a promise. You make those vows in front of God and they are expected to be kept. Expecting a person to change the way they think and what they believe is not a sign of maturity. Your spouse to be has to know that you will respect their values and beliefs and not try and change them to what you want them to be. Run the other way if the person is trying to change you.